Students step into shoes of others

By KAYLA BUNGE ( Contact )   Friday, Feb. 27, 2009
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— Hundreds of UW-Whitewater students stepped out of their comfort zones Thursday and for a couple hours slipped into the shoes of people who face racial slurs, gay jokes and discriminatory comments.

It was difficult for freshman Courtney McCallister to get into a cramped bathroom stall in a wheelchair.

It was uncomfortable for junior Joe Rasmussen to be objectified, ridiculed and criticized by women because he didn’t measure up to the muscle-bound men in magazines.

It was heartbreaking for freshman Nicole Lemanczyk to watch her family, friends and community fall away after she told them she was a lesbian.

The Boxes and Walls diversity experience is designed to teach students to throw away the boxes and tear down the walls that oppress people, said Terry Tumbarello, assistant director of residence life and organizer of the biannual event.

Hundreds of students stood in a long line Thursday night to learn what it feels like to walk in another’s shoes.

They entered six rooms in Esker Dining Hall. In each room, their peers acted out situations to help them feel the discrimination that students face because of race, gender, sexual orientation, religion or disability.

In one room, Rasmussen, 25, Janesville, crouched in a small space beneath a glass ceiling.

Every time he said something, it was dismissed.

In another room, Jacey Coen, 19, Kenosha, fidgeted as her boyfriend’s parents refused to shake her hand.

“You know we don’t date this kind,” the father said to his son, who is black.

In a different room, McCallister, 18, West Allis, sat quietly at her desk as her teacher, who spoke only Spanish, asked why her test had nothing written on it.

She couldn’t answer him, so he gave her an “F.”

Boxes and Walls is unlike the diversity programs presented on most college campuses, Tumbarello said.

Most programs tell students about diversity, focusing on facts, figures and history, he said. Boxes and Walls is emotional, moving some students to tears.

“You have no choice but to acknowledge that this is reality for some people,” Tumbarello said. “And for a lot of students, they have that proverbial ‘A-ha!’ moment.”

Before they began, students were told they could leave if anything upset them, and when they finished, students talked about the experience in a loosely moderated discussion.

McCallister, who has struggled with discrimination from her family because her older brother is biracial, said parts of the experience hit home. Other experiences opened her eyes.

“It just goes to show you how much you don’t think about until it’s right there in your face,” she said.

Of course, the students said, the program was only the beginning. Participating in a diversity program is one thing; treating those who are different from them with dignity, respect and kindness is another, they said.

Tumbarello hopes the experience opens students’ eyes to the possibilities of a world free of discrimination.

“Hopefully we’re making a difference,” he said. “Hopefully, we’re making this world a better place.”







reader COMMENTS (9)
upnorthwi
Mar 1, 2009 at 1:32 a.m.
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localboy, your comments on a couple articles were really dumb today. Poor people shop at Aldi and it is ok to be ridiculed because it builds character?? Do you realize some KILL THEMSELVES while others are "building their character". Get a life buddy!!!

localboysince1968
Feb 28, 2009 at 5:55 p.m.
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Being ridiculed builds character. Nobody wants to grow up a spinless weasle.

prevention
Feb 28, 2009 at 5:24 p.m.
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I wish they had started it years ago when I was still there. I know MANY people who need the course on sensitivity! I can't tell you have many times people stare at my clients when we go out into the community.

Hornet
Feb 28, 2009 at 11:05 a.m.
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I was checking the on-line news today and found this article at CNN.com:

Disabled kids show host draws criticism, praise
http://www.cnn.com/2009/WORLD/europe/02/...

The short of it: a British TV host for under 6 year olds was born with one hand. Individuals are angry that they have to speak with their children about this disability and are complaining to BBC. BBC is standing with the host!

If you read the article, please read the comments. Most are amazed that a parent wouldn't take the opportunity to discuss diversity with his/her child. It's what a parent does...

One fellow who has a disability tells how hard other children were on him when he was young.

Yet another stated that at least this woman (in Britain) has a job...and that he'd like to have one.

More from around the world: http://www.google.com/search?hl=en&q...

Perfect10
Feb 27, 2009 at 4:44 p.m.
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ok. This is a really good way to learn a valuable lesson. Before you open your mouth and say something you should think who will be hurt. Life is too short to waste your time ridiculing others when you yourself are not perfect.

PanamaRed
Feb 27, 2009 at 1:50 p.m.
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Yes rooster, sensitivity is learned, which is why its so important for PARENTS to set good examples for their children. EVERYBODY deserves respect whether you agree with their lifestyle or understand their cultural heritage.

rooster
Feb 27, 2009 at 1:12 p.m.
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sensitivity is a learned experience, i guess.

ProudFighter11
Feb 27, 2009 at 10:07 a.m.
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Good work kids.

biggirl
Feb 27, 2009 at 7:58 a.m.
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How inspiring to have our young people care so much!

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