prinny68... "spot on" sweetie! I know I've gone through some bizarre issues with the sperm donor of my children. Being chased across neighbors lawns with him trying to slash my tires with my two precious daughters in the car, was freaky enough! Then, to have him stalking the house, after filing papers was creepy too. Fortunately for me, I had a lot of family support.
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And for my oldest child, she had some of the same issues I had at her age. I hope I helped her enough. Nothing is scarier than to see your own child repeating your same mistakes.
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She's on solid ground now. Has 3 beautiful kids that I love more than life itself, and has been through so much herself. I'm SOOO proud of her, AND her sister!
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From rags to emotional riches, they have gotten through everything!
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For these women in these situations... there IS LIGHT at the end of the tunnel! You will get your voice back, and make a stand. Your life and your children's lives are more important than the relationship you are in. Its hard, but doable....

PRINNY. i agree with your post, ive been there, and you do feel like there is no where else to go, and its useless,there is no hope. i use to just sit there and think,its ok it will be over soon.ive never really told anyone what it was like all those years i just sat there and took it,until one day i decided, im not taking this crap no more,and what a surprised look he had on his face alone was worth a million dollars lol.like i said a frying pan is great friend.but many years have past since that life,but every time i read about women getting beat up or killed i think about my past life,but by no means do i ever want any woman to do what i done to save myself,because it could put them in more danger. i was lucky i survived.and by no means should anyone tell someone who is being abused what to do,my post state only what ive done or would have done.i hope these women and men in these situations can get theirselves out of them safely.there is hope,and safety i found it.

It's not the job of the cops to judge the mental capacity of the abused; they are there to serve and protect-regardless of the situation at hand. Guns are not the answer, either. Parents need to teach their kids EARLY in life that men and women are equal, both are important in society, and there is no place for violence in the home. Kids pick up on habits their parents display in the home, so as long as Suzie can only be a nurse because she's a girl and only Jonny can be a doctor because he's a boy, this paradigm will never shift.

Many times these women go back to domestic violence situations because they feel they have very little options. If it involves living in a shelter with their children because they do not have friend/family that are willing to help them and support them while they pick themselves back up after leaving these monsters, for the least chaos in the lives of their children, they'll continue to take the abuse until they HAVE the resources they need to leave and be self-sufficient. Sometimes they just feel like they have no other choice but to go back. And by the time these women are going back to these men for 4 or 5 police calls, the men have beaten their self esteem down so far that they feel they couldn't stand on their own two feet even if they had an ARMY behind them. Police returning to these domestic violence situations should never place the blame on these women. Realize there are so many more emotional dynamics to these situations than "why does this stupid woman keep going back to this jerk?" We almost always wake up eventually... for some of us, it just takes longer and more serious abuse, than others.

i have seen alot of woman waste police officers time, by going back to these animals.this is not a funny situation.some of these police officers are very understanding and helpful,others are fed up with going back to the same domestic violence situation over and over.i have 3 daughers all in domestic violence situations,the oldest one left and never returned to him,the next one took a few belts in the face to wake her up,and she ended the relationship, the youngest however ended up with a pretty bad broken nose,she will have to have surgery after her baby is born.the dirt bag that did that is in prison on other charges,but was never charged with that,not important enough.woman who are beaten and stalked need to take action,unfortunately these self defense classes they offer them are not enough for some men, a frying pan,a tennis racket, or other modes of defense usually work,i preferred a frying pan that gets their attention real quick.i have one other question? what makes these people man or woman think its ok to do this to another person,what part of no do they not understand.people who are being stalked,beaten,or harrassed need to defend themselves,and dont blame the cops, because if you keep going back them its only going to get worse.

There is also the side of the coin - where women constantly run back to these type of men..I see it over and over. This is what can cause a delay in alot of situations. Women need to wake up in some situations, this isnt the dark age there is plenty of help out there.

Maybe before they got this POS to the jail, they could had drove to a nice secluded wooded area and play badmitton with rubber hoses. Guys like that are the biggest scum right behind child molesters and drug dealers.

This man's criminal record shows he has no respect for the law, those who enforce it, or for anyone else. Can't they find a way to put him away?

A friend of mine was being stalked by an ex-date. She did call the police, varied her routine, did all that she could to avoid the person, but every time she called the police, they never did anything beyond telling the ex-date to stay away from her. My friend couldn't afford a restraining order; they are free only if the stalker is living with you. She was also a single mom whose kids were scared. The stalking, harassment, and vandalism went on for a few years until she finally just had to move out of town. That was the only thing that stopped the stalking. The police never did anything effective, and were actually very reluctant to pursue the issue after they found out that the stalker worked at, uh, a once-important manufacturing facility...

In fact, I had to tell a nephew (30 years old) to respect a woman's answers of NO to his "rough housing." His response? Everyone knows when a woman says know, she doesn't mean it. Even if I do not care for the person, I told him to try me by continuing to abuse her. I have no qualms to call the cops on him.

you hit it on the head... my only variation is... if women were taken seriously-period.

More women need to buy handguns! Now, with that being said, I am goiong to stalk a bag of cheetos and assult those little orange critters.

Women who are in the middle of these situations, live in fear 24/7. Those with children are at the biggest risk of being physically assaulted, since the stalker can use the children as pawns to get to these women.
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If women were taken seriously, by police... the first and second time they call for help, there would be less 3rd, 4th, fifth assaults.