Why all must help stop school bullying
It was three years ago that 15-year-old Eric Hainstock entered Weston High School with a 22-caliber pistol and a 20-gauge shotgun. Principal John Klang confronted Hainstock, trying to protect his school’s students and staff. After a brief struggle, Klang was shot three times. He died later that day.
Debate continues as to exactly what Hainstock intended to do—get the school’s attention for the help he needed, or execute a fatalistic death wish for himself and his school.
What is clear is that Hainstock had been bullied.
He was bullied by his father who, he says, treated him like a slave and refused to let him wash. At school and after school, he claimed he was bullied by as many as 30 of his fellow classmates. He says he snapped.
We can’t know how much of this is true or how directly it contributed to the tragedy in Weston. What we do know is that nearly a third of America’s schoolchildren say they’ve been the victims of bullying—or been bullies themselves—or both.
We know that bullying can destroy a student’s self-esteem and ability to learn. We know it can ruin students for the rest of their lives; it can ruin families and ruin schools. It’s a problem among girls and boys. It can be mental bullying as well as physical. We know it can border on torture for the young minds who are the victims of it.
Bullying is a problem that affects us all. It’s a problem we must all help solve.
That’s why we’re partners with the Wisconsin Department of Public Instruction, which just launched its curriculum to help teachers cope with bullying in their classrooms, halls and playgrounds.
The DPI curriculum, called “Time to Act—Time to React,” is a set of lesson plans to help teachers identify bullies and bullying and to teach their students how to handle it.
The WEA Trust, a not-for-profit group health insurance company that insures many of Wisconsin’s public school employees, paid for the printing of the curricula (one for grades 3-5, another for grades 6-8) along with an interactive DVD, making it available free to teachers in any public grade school and public middle school in the state.
This isn’t a state mandate. It’s not a requirement. It’s a helping hand for teachers who feel they need help in keeping their students safe.
The problem is clear. So are the goals.
We, along with a large coalition, are supporting this effort to provide safe, healthy learning environments for our students and school staff.
The goal is important for insurance companies who believe that strong mental health is crucial to healthy bodies—and that healthy students make for healthy, safe schools.
The goal is important for the wife of a murdered husband whose life was abruptly ended by a bully out of control.
This curriculum is a step in making teachers’ and children’s lives safer today and tomorrow.
Sue Klang is the wife of John Klang, the Weston High School principal killed trying to wrestle a pistol away from a troubled 15-year-old student on Sept. 29, 2006.
Fred Evert is executive director of the WEA Trust, Wisconsin’s largest provider of group health insurance for Wisconsin’s school districts; phone (608) 276-4000.

Oct 30, 2009 at 10:28 a.m.
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I also want to thank one of the authors (Sue Klang) for taking a tragedy that cost her husband's life and working to combat the problem that led to the tragedy. I hope the program helps. Bullying has been a problem in schools and homes for far too long.
Oct 30, 2009 at 10:03 a.m.
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First, my condolences to the author who lost her husband in such a tragic way.
Having said that, the points that Ezoner make ARE relevant but, ask yourself how many people in our lives do we know, or may have known in our youth, who fit the description of Hainstock, and the horrible family conditions he may have had, that we usually ignore or term a "bad seed" instead of actually striving to do something to stop these types of situations from occuring. It is a natural instinct to protect our own and not want to get involved to the point it would take to try and reach out to a kid who is suffering a terrible home life, the way it appears this kid was suffering. I think, like Ezoner said, the ones who decide to take it out in the way Hainstock did do not have anyone to turn to.
I was already out of high school when Columbine happened. I remeber though how sometimes a teacher could be the worst kind of bully. No matter what educators and parents do, there will always be some form of bullying going on, thats part of growing up. I know that on the surface alot of effort has gone towards trying to limit the cases of bullying in school, which appear to be one of the motivations for kids to react this way. But, in my opinion as long as the "it's not my problem" mentality towards these kinds of kids changes, unfortunately these sad stories will continue to happen.
Oct 29, 2009 at 2:52 p.m.
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In my eyes it doesn't matter who is to blame, bullying is a real thing and kids these days think they can get away with anything. Kids are dead bcuz of bullies and teachers can't even look at a sudent the wrong way and they get sued. This country is getting too soft on everything and we are paying for it and it's only going to get worse.
Oct 29, 2009 at 9:30 a.m.
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I am not convinced that bullying is the real root cause. There are some key points made in this article.
1) The father was not a positive influence
2) The parents provided access to the weapons
3) The child was not encouraged to defend himself.
4) The parents were not proactive in helping the child to develop social skills
I really blame the parents. When I was young, I was the one who defended the kids being bullied if they were unable to defend themselves. I was not the most popular, but when the bullies saw me coming, they backed down and behaved. I had plenty of friends and stay in contact 30 years later. It was the parenting that provided me with the social survival skills. Not the school. Dealing with these people has made me a very successful leader and manager.
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