This would be a good time for the Mark Twain quote "Politicians and diapers should both be changed often - for the same reason."

purple- Mitt and Obama...Frauds....Factual but off-topic

She's got youtube vids too

Actually, everyone can just ignore my posts and just look up "erin pizzey" on the web who was the originator of the "women's shelter" movement.....Forget what I say, see what she says.

I don't give money to today's "churches" or large orgs either.
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Look up "erin pizzey" on the web, she started the first "shelter"...She knows all about it.

truth,
There is nothing, not one organization, that meets what appears to be your standards.
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From the Catholic Church, to shelter's for abused women, they all have some abuse, some waste and some fraud.
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The best way to avoid that is
1. donate your time
2. give an item instead of money
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It doesn't take a genius to figure that out but if you feel better about yourself by writing down all your excuses for not giving than keep it up. Personally, I find that pathetic but heck, who am I to judger, I read the responded to it.

1234- It's your prerogative to think what you want.

truth.. After going back and reading some of your posts..I've come to the conclusion that you are a very unhappy person with life .Life is what you make it and how YOU as a person treat others, or how you think others should live.
why_think....THANK YOU !!!

whythink- Unquestionably there are women abused by men as well as men abused by women...I just wonder what percentage of women at "womens shelters" were actually victims of one-way abuse by the man and how much of this "free" stuff is actually just enabling half-truths and possibly outright lies.
There is also the problem of actual victims not being served because services are used by people telling lies and stealing services.
Erin Pizzey started the first "women's shelter" and she knows all about this phenomenon.

Good Grief,
I volunteered at a shelter for women and children that were victims of abuse. The stereotypes are disgusting.
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A car newer than 12 years old? So you must be in poverty to end up in a relationship where a SOB hits you? Really? Do you get that any women can end up being a victim? Your stereotypes are unbelieveable.
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So a women, middle-class with nice stuff finds herself with a "man" that decides to hit her or the kids. She decides to leave and takes some of her nice stuff with her. She runs away from the abuser, afraid for her life, driving her 2011 Tahoe and ends up at this shelter in Janesville.
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Now, because at one point in her life, miles away from Janesville, she had a good paying job and bought a newer car, clothes, jewelry, etc... the people of Janesville won't donate.
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PEOPLE WAKE UP, they are at a shelter, hiding because the "man" is an abusive coward. Many lived a completely normal life before running to the shelter but now are in need. They are stuck and may not have access to THEIR money because of the abuser.
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Donate or not but stop judging. BTW, if you don't want to donate stuff or money for stuff donate your time. The mother's could use time to look for a job, place to live, attend counseling, etc... but need someone to watch the kids. I did that and I was amazed at how helpful it was. These shelters are great but the situation is very stressful. Some time to focus on their adult life is needed and nearly impossible with kids.

1234- I have done more than my share of that its just that I won't be giving to this particular thing.

truth...Think at it this way...Donate /volunteer because you want nothing in return... happiness for yourself{maybe} !! I may not have it all...but what I do have is self worth and compassion for others that just haven't found the normal ground in they own lives !!! Whatever normal is !!!

"Giving" money to anything or anyone should be done by thinking about whether it is giving or "enabling".

If you don't want your money being idly spent on things you don't approve of, donate the actual product needed. Go buy the packs of diapers, wipes, powder, tampons, pads, whatever and call it a day. You could also ask if they need toys, school supplies, cleaning products, makeup and hair products, business attire and shoes (for interviewing at a job), new bras and underwear, first aid supplies, baby clothes, and maybe books, magazine subscriptions in the name of the organization... It's not that hard to give if you stop looking at it as money that might be spent at McDonald's.

What a great idea. Diapers are expensive and can be a real budget buster for young parents.

You naysayers make me sick.

tthompson- Well, I started out with backing up connim on their comment and went on to dispel the myth later that junk food is "cheaper" than healthy food, which it's not, and then called out the false use of the term "excuse" by some people.
Someone will probably,yet, come up with the one about "fast food joints" being cheaper than cooking your own healthy food and thats why people are obese........That one right there is a real whopper(pardon the pun).

If it's not your thing Truth, then why are you even commenting on this story??

Shopiere- What may people refer to as "excuses" is actually the use of rational thought.
Me not passing out $10 bills to everyone I meet is not because of an "excuse".

Wow. Some of you are looking for excuses for not donating to this and other things. The kids should have dirty diapers because the mom smokes, has eaten that day or the day before, and on and on. Nasty, nasty people.

...and, a one-burner hot plate is, what, fifteen bucks.....?

analert- You're wrong..Those "foods" you name are NOT cheap...Vegetables in the store ARE cheap, but it takes WORK to *COOK* them as do all the other VERY CHEAP and healthy foods from the very cheap and very good grocery stores.
Its about EFFORT.
Saying fast food and snacks are "cheap" is FALSE.

WOW !!! Why worry about what people do or don't do?? Unbelievable that you worry if someone is a smoker,over weight or drives a newer car than yourself.You do realize these are women and children that came/got out of a abused/violent situation.Oh never mind ...you already showed your compassionate side in your comments.Sure you DON'T volunteer or donate anyway !! JMO

Actually truth, overweight people are usually the ones who eat the cheapest and most comvenient foods as they don't have the resources to prepare what you and I might be able to prepare. Cheetoes and donuts fill the stomach. Don't forget, Mr. Bealles was touring the Alternatives to Violence Program whe he came up with the idea. I love the idea.

wasp- You're right, I'm definitely not going to donate to people who already have more luxuries than I do and anyone thats seriously overweight doesn't need more food or more opportunities to do nothing and get even more overweight by getting stuff handed to them...IF that is the kind people you are talking about.

I would donate also, but do any of the mothers buy snack foods, alcohol, candy, movie tickets, have cable or satellite tv, have a car newer than 12 years old, more than one child, go to a Christian church every Sunday? Are they overweight, do they have jobs, do they agree with me politically? Come on folks you weren't going to donate anyway. Just looking for excuses.

How about also donating tampons and sanitary napkins, things people usually don't donate but very necessary, even for mothers.

Fabulous idea no matter what the circumstances of people's lives.Walk in someone else' shoes judgeMENTALS and then judge.

Ooooh, be careful connim, or you'll be called "judgmental"....Can't have that.

AWESOME job dudes and dudetts! Just a thought......how many of these mothers smoke? I would like to donate but dont want to donate to help someone who is in "need" to buy cig's. I would say if u smoke then u cant be a part of this program! You r helping them save to better their lives not for them to save up to buy cig's! Like I said earlier just a thought!