McPoland loses his battle with cancer

By JOHN MCPOLAND   Thursday, October 1, 2009 - 11:33 a.m.

Editor's note: Gazette sports writer John McPoland passed away Saturday after a 21-month battle with cancer. This entry was his last.

I’m not afraid of dying, but I’m afraid I’m dying, folks.

It took me awhile to jump on the Gazette’s blog train during the first year of my illness.

Then, after thinking it over, I thought I could help people out by trying to bring a positive attitude and a little bit of medical information to gazetteextra.com.

This blog debuted in January, and I’ve tried to be brutally frank and honest with everything going on with my situation so that people can try to get a first-hand look at what a battle against cancer is like.

Well, it looks like the battle is in its waning days.

We can’t control the platelet counts; some liver function numbers are off the charts—in a bad way, and my liver is starting to break down. All from a little tumor that measures less than 2 inches across.

So, barring a miracle, this will be my last posting.

My parents traveled to Janesville and brought me home to Iowa late last week. I am reclining in a hospital bed in their front room, surrounded by family and friends. I am still pain free, lucid and watching football, NASCAR, golf and “Survivor.”

The way this played out isn’t all that rare. But at least as the imminent finish to this comes closer, I’ve had the opportunity to tie up financial, personal, spiritual and emotional loose ends.

Too many people out there die without being able to prepare for anything. If you want to call it that, I’ve been given the luxury to prepare.

For those of you prone to tears, don’t worry about me. I’ve had my mind wrapped around this since being diagnosed on Dec. 18, 2007. (I’ve discovered all cancer patients know their prognosis date as well as their birthdays.)

Throughout the ordeal, I’ve tried to be more concerned about the impact on family and friends than myself. I think, to some degree, I’ve achieved that.

The initial diagnosis gave me 12 to 15 months. I’ve managed to stretch that to 21, trying to work my regular shift and maintaining a normal lifestyle as much as possible.

I made sure that life didn’t shut down.

Some unknown spirit led me to the Rock County Humane Society, where I saved a little terrier. Tally will be happy in her new digs with my family.

I’ve gotten closer to God than I ever was at any time in my life, but not in a hypocritical way.

That might be hard for non-believers to understand, but I honestly think it’s true. I actually believed that I experienced a true moment of epiphany during a Sunday service at St. Mary’s just a couple months ago. A lot of credit goes to the parishioners of St. Mary’s Church in Janesville, especially Father Steve, for opening their arms to a wayward son.

I used to be an extremely judgmental person. The illness opened my eyes to other people’s plights.

I’ve constantly been amazed by listening to stories from other chemotherapy patients while the toxins drip into my veins.

Ninety-nine percent of those people are battlers, and there’s a heck of a lot of courage and compassion in the chemo room.

I can’t finish this without a big shout-out to Trish, Christine, Angie, Cindy, Molly, Shaundi, Kathy and Marilyn at Mercy for being true angels.

And I can’t overlook the effort put in by Dr. Dena Green and her assistant, Linda Brethauer.

In my wildest dreams, I never imagined when I came to Janesville in 1991 that I would still be a part of the community 19 years later.

I think I need to wrap this up now.

Everybody keep fighting.

reader COMMENTS
Click here to view reader comments
(129)
JvlFab5
Oct 6, 2009 at 9:01 a.m.
Suggest removal

Not sure if some of the "readers" saw this post about John. Worth sharing also. Written by Justin Brown on WJVL.

http://wjvl.com/weblogs/justin-brown/200...

luluberry_0981
Oct 5, 2009 at 9:42 p.m.
Suggest removal

Rest in peace. :(

Leslie
Oct 5, 2009 at 3:35 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, enjoy your front row seat at tonight's Packer, Viking game. May you rest in peace, my thoughts and prayers are with your family!

gh718
Oct 5, 2009 at 1:45 p.m.
Suggest removal

A fun John story: Jan. 1997. John was covering the Super Bowl in New Orleans, and I was working for TNT...we had the NFL in those days. I invited John to our Saturday night party...this was back when John was carrying the extra weight, had the long hair, and liked a few beverages. I was talking to clients (all of them in coat and tie, etc--pretty stuffy group), when John emerged from the crowd sweating like crazy. He grabs me and says "Oh my God, this is the best party I've ever been to in my life! ZZ Topp just showed up, and they're playing with the Allman Brothers! This is awesome!!!" As he headed back into the party, one of the guys says to me "A Janesville friend?" and I said "Yea, glad he's having fun." I've always had that image of John whenever I think of him, and always will...he had a great spirit, and now others in heaven are getting to enjoy it. His time here was too short, but well spent.

blueskykp
Oct 5, 2009 at 1:31 p.m.
Suggest removal

John became my friend recently...I took him out at the poker table and he took me out to dinner. We had a wonderful time and his attitude about his end of life issues was amazing and inspiring. He was ready to go...'Good to go, kathy' is what he said. I am grateful, though it was a short time I got know this wonderful human being, I will see him again...I am sure he is smiling at all these posts....

common_sense_101
Oct 5, 2009 at 1:27 p.m.
Suggest removal

This was a wonderful post. It was hard to hold back my tears here at work, but I somehow managed. Life is just the beginning to an amazing journey and I am sure that John (wherever he is) is making the best of it!

racingpr
Oct 5, 2009 at 11:53 a.m.
Suggest removal

Since 2003, I have had a professional working relationship with John as he covered the local auto racing scene. We have had our share of conversations, arguements, and laughs. But, he was passionate about his work as a writer. He felt he was one of the best ones out there.

The last time John and I saw each other was back on June 30th when he came to Madison International Speedway to cover a race with Matt Kenseth & Tony Stewart. I didn't recognize him until he started talking to me. The first thing I asked him was how he was doing and like he stated above, he had a very positive attitude about it. He wasn't going to let this disease to stop him from what enjoyed doing.

With a smile on my face, I will say this...Dale Earnhardt, Alan Kulwicki, Joe Shear and other racers who he will be joining in Heaven...watch out!!! You will be having a reporter come and ask you some tough questions and he will not be afraid to ask them.

Take Care John.

prevention
Oct 5, 2009 at 11:17 a.m.
Suggest removal

Wow. I'm not sure what to say. Praise God for sharing John with us. I feel like this is a bad dream. I only knew John through his courageous fight. Thank you.

curtaincall
Oct 5, 2009 at 10:57 a.m.
Suggest removal

I will always remember John for his grace, humor and dignity for how he faced this challenge. My thoughts and prays are with his family and friends.

wesgonsin
Oct 5, 2009 at 10:22 a.m.
Suggest removal

I am a grown man, but I am not ashamed to say I was touched by this article. I once made a jab at John McPoland in these readers comments, but all in good fun.
It just commands respect that he faced the inevitible with such dignified bravery. I did not know him personally, no. But I am sure there is one more bright shining star in the Heavens above.

Unidentified
Oct 5, 2009 at 10:03 a.m.
Suggest removal

John was truly inspirational. His columns in the face of his illness were enlightening and educating. He never let the cancer take away his passion for writing. RIP John

carlitosway
Oct 5, 2009 at 8:16 a.m.
Suggest removal

Thank you John for the words of hope and faith you have shared with us all and also for the words of wisdom in all you have written and shared with us. You will be missed and my heart and prayers to you and your family.

JWEyster
Oct 5, 2009 at 5:28 a.m.
Suggest removal

GOD BLESS THE MEMORY OF JOHN McPOLAND and comfort his family and many friends! We need to celebrate John's life with MUCH GRATITUDE for his very meaningful and helpful blog re. his battle with cancer. The last blog entry expressed John's strong sense of reality, "I’m not afraid of dying, but I’m afraid I’m dying, folks." Oh, God - THANK YOU for John's life! John

twester
Oct 4, 2009 at 7:56 p.m.
Suggest removal

I'll always remember John McPoland for his trademark Gazette newsroom trot and his random exclamation of "Jiminy Christmas" whenever his computer crashed. His passion for his job and life will always be an inspiration for me.
God Bless!

leaderofthepack
Oct 4, 2009 at 6:33 p.m.
Suggest removal

Janesville is losing one of the good guys. Love him, hate him, agree or disagree, he stood firm in work and in his life. R.I.P.

hocking93
Oct 4, 2009 at 10:58 a.m.
Suggest removal

My thoughts and prayers to the McPolands. Sam, JoAnne, Shelly, Bob, Mike and Jim. I am so sorry for your loss. I have sit quietly in the evening reading John's blog on occasion and reflecting on life through a man who knew how to live as he knew his days were going to be cut short here on earth. Praise God that he grew close to Jesus on his final walk. John's last blog stopped me in my tracks as I read it at work last week and wondered how one could ever be so brave as to face it all as he did. I am grateful he shared his journey with us all and I am sure he touched so many lives and helped others with his story. May he rest in peace.

catann52
Oct 4, 2009 at 9:43 a.m.
Suggest removal

The McPoland family has been in my life all of my life. From being Bob and JoAnns flowergirl in their wedding to having them babysit my children to having them there when my parents died. I don't know a family with bigger hearts and concern for others. My thoughts and prayers are with you. John, I am sure Grandpa McPoland will show you a few ways to win at Euchere. It was wonderful that you shared your life with so many during the last year. May you all continue to love and find peace.

Dusty
Oct 4, 2009 at 8:47 a.m.
Suggest removal

I was so glad to finally meet you at Relay for Life! You made the event really special. Thank you! My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family.

pack
Oct 4, 2009 at 8:41 a.m.
Suggest removal

{{{John's family}}} As said in my earlier post, I never met John in person, only through the wrtten word. My heart is aching right now for the loss of John. His sweet smiling face will linger in my momory for a long time. I hope you as a family can find peace in the next few months, knowing that you had the privilage on knowing this man. I can see by your words, you are a very loving, supportive family. I hope you can see my {{{hugs}} and please pass one or two on to Tally. Sweet Tally.

mombirchx5
Oct 4, 2009 at 7:19 a.m.
Suggest removal

Joann, Sam, Shelly, Mike, Jim, and Bob,
You have all been through a family's worst nightmare and have endured with amazing strength, grace and love. I love you all and am grieving with you at the loss of John. He is finally at peace, and in heaven with the rest of our family. Love, Mary

dusty3
Oct 4, 2009 at 7:09 a.m.
Suggest removal

My deepest and heartfelt sympathy goes out to all of John's family and friends. Memories are a wonderful thing. I always enjoyed listening to John and Mike "debate" their opinions over sports, they both were very passionate. John has touched many lives, what an awesome way for him to live on - with a scholarship in his name.
In my thoughts and prayers.
Lisa Hastings

oldvet
Oct 4, 2009 at 7:06 a.m.
Suggest removal

John: May God hold you in the palm of his hand.

SarahB1
Oct 4, 2009 at 3:47 a.m.
Suggest removal

Thank you so much for the update, John's family. I feel so very sad at the moment but do believe in the afterlife and know that John lives on in another place. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. I feel as if I have lost someone close and am not afraid to admit that I am crying as I write this. Having never met John, this is just more proof of his power as a writer. I think the scholarship plan is both beautiful and appropriate. P.S. Please take good care of Tally.

MrScott
Oct 4, 2009 at 12:33 a.m.
Suggest removal

My condolences to John's family. He was an amazing man, and I think all of us who kept up with his blog appreciate John helping us feel like part of the family. He could have decided to go about his battle privately, but his courage to share it publicly gave inspiration to myself and many others.

befair
Oct 4, 2009 at 12:01 a.m.
Suggest removal

My sincerest condolences to John's family. What a wonderful legacy he has left. May God hold you close in the days ahead.

klinkhas
Oct 3, 2009 at 11:59 p.m.
Suggest removal

I know my brother Bob beat me to the punch, but I would like to say that today was not only my grandpa McPolands birthday, but it was the day my brother John joined all of our loved ones in heaven. I wanted to say THANKS to all who posted on this blog site, on Saturday I sat and read every entry that had been posted to John, he simply laid in his bed and smiled:) Today I read all of his new cards to him, and even though he was loosing his battle he would open his eyes to look at the special card that you took the time to send, and again smiled. He was surrounded all day long by his family, and he felt all of our love. The Hospice nurse that came today helped to get him ready for his journey to heaven...and the nurse tonight helped our family say goodbye. It was very sad, but in my heart I know he is smiling down with those we have lost, and getting together either a poker game or a euchre game:) This will be my brothers final blog, but I say this to all...
THANKS for all of your kindness and encouragement for John, you have all touched our lives more deeply than you could ever know. We will be planning his services soon, and I want all to know that one of his requests of our family is that we set up a scholarship fund, so please no flowers, my family will be returning soon to Janesville to set up this fund:) So here is a shout out to all of those journalism students be watching for my brothers memory to live on through others! God bless one and all!!!
Shelly (the General) Klinkhammer (Johns sister)

hooters
Oct 3, 2009 at 10:58 p.m.
Suggest removal

God bless you John. You have touched so many lives in such a positive way.

bobmcp
Oct 3, 2009 at 10:40 p.m.
Suggest removal

Just wanted everyone to know that John's 21 moth battle has finally come to an end. John passed away today at 9:15 p.m.. His arm wrapped up in his Godsons Cubs blanket(how ironic, oh how he loved his Brewers). Again our family wants to thank everyone who has supported and prayed for John. He will be missed by all. We love you John

greatidea
Oct 3, 2009 at 10 p.m.
Suggest removal

John,
It was a pleasure meeting you and shaking your hand at the farmer's market. It was nice to meet your little dog too with the big heart.
When you filled in for Stan on open mic you had a tendency to open the door for some very lively debates. I enjoyed participating in them with you. You were always polite even though we had different opinions on the topic. You were willing to listen and understand the other's point of view.
My thoughts are with you, your family and all that care for you.

Dale

BDiddy
Oct 3, 2009 at 7:59 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, I followed your blog when my stepdad was sick and I kept following after I lost him earlier this year. I rejoiced when you were doing well and I worried when you didn't post for a while over the summer. I regularly prayed that you would be an exception, and that we could keep you here to give people hope. To all of John's fans, keep fighting. When the time comes and we don't have him here on earth, we won't have lost him. We'll simply have gained a guardian angel for those who need one the most.

sunnyside2day
Oct 3, 2009 at 7:13 p.m.
Suggest removal

It will never cease to amaze me what destruction one two inch tumor can do. While you are coming to the end of your journey in your body, you will soon begin another journey of much importance. My prayers and thoughts are with you and your family. Peace and love to you.

redbedhead
Oct 3, 2009 at 6:04 p.m.
Suggest removal

Thank you so much for opening up your heart and sharing your story with all of us. Thoughts and prayers to you and your family.

Long_Time_Gone
Oct 3, 2009 at 1:36 p.m.
Suggest removal

It is said that each of us are the sum total of everyone whom we have ever met.
*
Reading the posts below, the goodness John possesses has indeed enriched all those near him. And perhaps that transference is his greatest legacy.
*
As John’s testimony illustrated, his epiphany also coaches each of us to re-member (remember or meditate) to God’s Holy promise - the source of goodness, and the keeper of our souls.
*
Cancer is so unfair. But God did not promise a fair life. He promised to walk us through the valley of the shadow of death, to restore our souls, to live in His house, forever.
*
But I am also reminded of what the Buddhists say, If you haven't wept deeply, you haven't begun to meditate.
*
God Bless You John.

frusion
Oct 3, 2009 at 12:43 p.m.
Suggest removal

Peace John. You are loved.

fool_on_the_hill
Oct 3, 2009 at 12:28 p.m.
Suggest removal

You are a brave man, John McPoland. Your courage lives on in those you have touched, who then pass it along to others.

Irish_Mafia78
Oct 3, 2009 at 12:20 p.m.
Suggest removal

John -

Thanks for sharing this bit of your life with the world. Even though it wasn't the most pleasant of experiences, it was real. While I can't speak for anyone else. You humbled this total stranger and moved them to tears. I hope you have peace until the last.

rockstars
Oct 3, 2009 at 10:57 a.m.
Suggest removal

Thank you for sharing your story. It's inspirational, honest and hits close to home. Safe journeys.

jvres777
Oct 3, 2009 at 8:34 a.m.
Suggest removal

Hi John,
You probably won't remember me because I only got to speak to you on one occasion. I met you at Marsha's house and had a great conversation with you! I was so impressed with your zest for life, the variety of interests you spoke of and most importantly how your eyes sparkled and the big smile you had when you spoke of your family and friends! I always say if you believe you will see God in something or someone every day. The conversation we shared on that day allowed me to see the goodness of God in you! Thank you and peace be with you!

stacymarie
Oct 3, 2009 at 1:49 a.m.
Suggest removal

Thank you, John for sharing the most amazing journey of your life with us. A BIG hug to you, your mom and your dad. Peace to you, John, thanks for touching my life as you did.
Chris, your ER nurse.

paytomuchtax
Oct 2, 2009 at 11:21 p.m.
Suggest removal

God Bless John your in the paryers and hearts of all of Janesville!

astryker
Oct 2, 2009 at 10:25 p.m.
Suggest removal

John--I have only been in your presence a couple of times, (I am Shel's best friend, Amy)but I know you are a man with immense spirit. You are amazing, and I will pray for your final journey--that you will be filled with Peace. You have handled this diagnosis with amazing courage and strength. I am in awe as I re-read your final blog. You are amazing-Peace to you--Amy S

lbsfellows
Oct 2, 2009 at 10:13 p.m.
Suggest removal

Say it ain't so John. Certainly my words can't touch the quit wit of yours, but as a person who secretly wanted to write, I'd like you to know that your voice has always been really, well... cool to me. Be it very clear that you have created quite the legacy, friend. What a tremendous gift you've given to be able to say these words. Thank you John. Peace, Love and Eternity. L Fellows

onlinereader
Oct 2, 2009 at 8:41 p.m.
Suggest removal

Hi John...I hope you have the chance to read this. You dont know me but I feel like I know you! I am one of the Pharmacy Technicians at the hospital and I prepared your chemotherapy treatments many times. We often feel like we get to know our patients just because we see your names and prepare your medication sometimes every week. We even say "John's here" and we know off the top of heads what we are going to need to prepare for you before we even look at the doctors orders. I hope that I contributed to all of your loved ones getting to spend a little more time with you! I just wanted to say that I (and everyone else I work with) will miss seeing your inspiring face sitting in one of the oncology chairs! Peace to you, John!
-Pam

katiejoyce
Oct 2, 2009 at 7:55 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, I've been reading your story for the past year and had been hoping for the best. The old nuns at the motherhouse used to pray "from a sudden and unprovided death, Lord, deliver me. I've been through a couple of bouts with cancer as well as dear friends and relatives. You have exemplified the blessing of a "provided death." I pray for you and thank you for your courageous words. So you're from Dubuque, where my grade school teachers originated (the BVM's)! God bless you and your family.

wavjmper
Oct 2, 2009 at 7:26 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, I enjoyed working with you those late nights. I have always enjoyed your passion for everything you do. Have a good voyage my friend.

Phil

JoeSchmo
Oct 2, 2009 at 6:11 p.m.
Suggest removal

John,
You and your family are in my thoughts... Thank you for sharing and take comfort in the peace ahead of you. Hugs...

7414
Oct 2, 2009 at 4:55 p.m.
Suggest removal

John,
Thank you for sharing with us. Our prayers go out to you and your family. You are inspirational. Your ability to share what you have experienced with the readers is to be commended. I have never met you, but after reading your articles I think it is safe to say you opened up yourself so that we all felt like we were friends of yours. Your courage is not only evident in your openness to share your feelings with a sometimes unforgiving blog community, but more importantly in your determination to keep a smile on your face. You were honest and forthcoming in a way that really hits home. You made a difference in our lives by helping us understand the process, the feelings; the hardships; the fears; and the emotions you were experiencing. Thank you and God bless you.

dhinkel
Oct 2, 2009 at 4:20 p.m.
Suggest removal

John - I'll miss your sense of humor. It has been a pleasure to know you. Dan Hinkel

Badgerlvr
Oct 2, 2009 at 4:14 p.m.
Suggest removal

I once heard that death was like watching a ship leave the harbor. Many were saddened to see her go. Somewhere others were excited to know she was coming. We're all saddened by what you're going through John but hopeful your journey will take you to a more pleasant place. God Bless!

mjshan
Oct 2, 2009 at 4:03 p.m.
Suggest removal

Dear John,

Goose here. I am saddened, dude.

I remember when I first met you at Ghost. I thought, who IS this guy?! really, I had never met anyone with so much intelligence, humor, energy, and optimism. I saw all of those things in your "Ballad of the Rodeo Cowboy" -- remember? you wrote it for Mr. Hannah and he had you read it to the class and I thought, damned that is good and that is John McP.

Speaking of Ghost, remember that time you got injured at football practice and the ambulance came but could not get back up the hill? We laughed for a week over that one.

I saw all of your qualities on those nights when you could not win a hand of cards for anything. We all had such nights but you were the only one who could laugh right back at bad luck. I tell you, some of my favorite memories from high school were when we would buy those quarts of beer and just sit outside somewhere in the dark and drink them. (And if anybody from Columbkille's Church is reading this, yes, we threw the empties onto your playground!) That was special.

It is true that after high school we went our own ways, but I never forgot you and never will. To this day, I think you are the smartest, most optimistic and energetic and good-humored person I have ever met. What a gift your friendship has been. How do thank someone for that? I don't know except to say thanks from my heart to yours.

I am not a religious person but what a magnificent thought that we may all rise up someday and see each other again and it will be sweeter than any game of Euchre. I hope this is true and hope we meet again, Johnny Mac.

Your blog taught me about courage, especially this last post. This may sound strange, but next time I am in Dubuque, I am going to sneak out in the night with a quart and drink it under the stars in your honor. It will be for you.

Yours always and God Bless, Mike

mheine
Oct 2, 2009 at 3:37 p.m.
Suggest removal

John,
It's not if you win or lose, it's how you've played the game. You've fought the good fight in your battle with cancer, and you never gave up. Your courage and bravery throughout that battle is an inspiration to us all. You're in my thoughts and prayers. God bless.
-Mike

meemaw
Oct 2, 2009 at 3:19 p.m.
Suggest removal

Your first statement, "I'm not afraid of dying, I'm afraid of dying" is so well said. Thank you John for all your writings...I enjoyed them all. Praise the Lord for your faith in Him, really the bottom line for that which is most important in life & in passing to eternity. Hope you get to see the Vikings LOSE Monday night!! :-D I'll get to meet you in heaven...until then.....

pschmoldt
Oct 2, 2009 at 3:01 p.m.
Suggest removal

John:
My thoughts and prayers are with you today, just as they have been throughout this journey. Thank you for sharing your many talents with our community, especially your perspectives, positive attitude, and even humor along this most recent path. Your words have given us all much to ponder. Know that you have made a difference in this world, just as you will in the next. I hope you have a peaceful and painfree journey. You will be greatly missed.
Pam Schmoldt

Brewernut
Oct 2, 2009 at 2:40 p.m.
Suggest removal

John - Prayers to you and your family. Thank you for sharing a part of life that many would not. May you be blessed and comforted through the last of your journey.

wortnik
Oct 2, 2009 at 2:36 p.m.
Suggest removal

All the best as your journey nears the goal. Say hello to Mary Barber and Dale#3 when you have time. Sharing your stories will make those traveling the same road feel they are not alone.

rcwahlert
Oct 2, 2009 at 2:24 p.m.
Suggest removal

Bubs
You keep fighting and we'll keep pray'in.
Don't give up.
Your old highschool poker parter

Bob W

aames
Oct 2, 2009 at 2:06 p.m.
Suggest removal

John-

Your presence will always, always be with us in this newsroom. We might not be able to laugh much today, but soon enough we will. I just know we will tell each other stories about you forever and will always laugh happily when we do.

Hug.
Ann Marie Ames

dking
Oct 2, 2009 at 1:23 p.m.
Suggest removal

John- You have been an inspiration to those of us here at the Gazette. You have shown us all what lies in our core if we call upon it - optimism, strength of mind and spirit, courage, and love beyond self. My thoughts are with you and your family. Debby

DG1965
Oct 2, 2009 at 1:10 p.m.
Suggest removal

John,

Last night I read through all of your blog entries again, remembering the humorous parts of your journey, laughing aloud and reading the stories to my family. A lot has happened, from the bleeds, the fractures, the eating issues, and those damned platelets. You never lost your spirit and you always reminded me how important it is to have some normalcy in life. (Even if I disagreed with those double shifts early on). Thank-you for sharing your journey so openly. It has helped so many others to accept and cope with their circumstances. I will remember you in a special place in my heart, and I promise to keep fighting.

Dena Green

abergstrom
Oct 2, 2009 at 12:20 p.m.
Suggest removal

Hi John: I just wanted to say thanks for being a great colleague and a friend to me -- both before this battle of yours began and after. I admit that I tried not to think of what the outcome would be in the end; I didn't want to consider the options (though I was helped by the fact that I'm ridiculously optimistic most of the time).

I find it morbidly fascinating (sorry) to read about your preparations and your thoughts for your family and friends. I've always been incredibly afraid of death, and I hope I gain the same clarity and thoughtfulness when it's my turn someday.

Allow me one selfish aside: There is part of me that's still mourning some of the great things I left behind in Janesville when I moved away a year ago. My experiences since then have been somewhat lacking, especially at work. So I catch myself welling up a bit as I read this, mostly because of what you've written, but partly also because your goodbye puts just a little more distance between those good memories of mine.

Anyway, thanks for being a part of that. Safe journey, and we'll be seeing you.

rfrank
Oct 2, 2009 at 11:29 a.m.
Suggest removal

McP,
From incorporating the term “lawyer-ball” to demonstrating proper form for the swan-dive sliding technique in rec-league softball, you have created good memories that will stick with me forever. More importantly, the courage, determination, positive spirit, and kind words that you have demonstrated and shared with others while faced with life’s most difficult challenge over the last twenty one months is truly inspirational. If I could think of a more eloquent way to say thank you for that I would, so I’ll just leave it with a simple “Thank-You”. You are a blessed person, and it has been an honor and privilege to know you. Take care, Rudy.

tsullivan
Oct 2, 2009 at 11:26 a.m.
Suggest removal

John, I only knew you about a year, but I have been inspired by your fight.

You have bravely shared your battle with cancer, but you never wanted sympathy, attention or special treatment because of it.

In that way, your grace, dignity and positive attitude has touched many lives. It certainly has touched mine.

God bless,

Ted

rstricker
Oct 2, 2009 at 11:10 a.m.
Suggest removal

I'm honored to have worked with you, John.
God's blessings as this adventure continues.

fschultz
Oct 2, 2009 at 10:34 a.m.
Suggest removal

You may be dying, John, but you still write words that hit like a basball transferring its sting through the leather of a catcher's mitt. You words live on, as you will, in our memories.

tlc8668
Oct 2, 2009 at 10:18 a.m.
Suggest removal

John, Although we only met a couple times in spring of 2007, I was touched by your caring, compasionate and fun attitude. I have followed your blog and prayed for your well being and the well being of your family and will continue to do so. You have fought hard and honestly and your reward is at your fingertips. God speed John. Terri Courtney

kbunge
Oct 2, 2009 at 9:58 a.m.
Suggest removal

Oh gosh, John...I don't even know what to say. You have been an inspiration to me and to many, and I am so proud to call you my co-worker and friend. We'll never forget your smile or your laugh or your wicked sense of humor or your insight. Take care and God bless. Just like you told me before you left for Iowa, you're destined for bigger and better things.
--Kayla

tryan
Oct 2, 2009 at 9:38 a.m.
Suggest removal

John-
I cannot put into words the respect and admiration I have for you. I can only hope that someday I have the strength, courage and optimism you have had an continue to have even now. You are an inspiration to everyone around you and you will never be forgotten. If you have the pleasure of meeting my mom please tell her that I miss and love her very much.
Peace to you and your family, John.
Tonya Ryan

tbremel
Oct 2, 2009 at 9:35 a.m.
Suggest removal

John,
Working on our Stewardship committee at St. Paul's, I've tried to find a way to get across to people how their service to others measures up in the eyes of God. And now - right before the eyes of the entire internet world - you provide the perfect example of servitude, humility, strength and faith. I pray for a miracle of reprieve that would keep you with us here, but if that is not to be, its a comfort to know you will then be 'cancer free' for eternity. God Bless, John. (-Tim Bremel)

svogel
Oct 2, 2009 at 9:29 a.m.
Suggest removal

John-
It's wonderful to read about how many lives you've touched, both through personal contact and through your columns and blogs. I've only had the privilege to know you a few short years, but know that neither I nor any of your co-workers at the Gazette will ever forget you.
-Stacy

jrevels
Oct 2, 2009 at 9:14 a.m.
Suggest removal

John - you've been a true inspiration to everyone you worked with, and beyond. I have so much respect and admiration for you in the way you've fought this battle....what a dedicated employee and friend to all that know you. This has been a tough time for all at Bliss - I'm sure you know how much impact you've had on your co-workers and readers, it's been profound. My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family...Jenny Revels

localboysince1968
Oct 2, 2009 at 8:59 a.m.
Suggest removal

Life is all about challenges, but there is no greater challenge then to stare down death in the face and not give up. You fought it with the best weapons you had, communication and a tough spirit. For that, you have become a warrior. Immitation is the greatest form of flattery, and you have a lot of immitators..

bobmcp
Oct 2, 2009 at 8:34 a.m.
Suggest removal

I just want to thank everybody who has been so kind and all of the prayers your saying for John and our family. Like I said in John's first blog, I have always looked up to you brother and wanted to be like you. I guess that is why I like the Cyclones. (Why I don't Know??) Isn't that what you are suppose to do when your that young. Look up to your eldest sibbling. I'm not only losing a brother, but like you stated before.(I'm losing my best friend). I will miss you very much brother. Don't worry I will keep the promise's I made to you. Just look down from Heaven and you will see. I love you Brother and Best Friend!! Bob

dlass
Oct 2, 2009 at 7:32 a.m.
Suggest removal

John, I will miss our talks about music, TV and movies. I will miss your smile and your big laugh. I will miss your helpful advice and guidance. But I will NEVER, NEVER forget you my friend. Courage, Dan

tdinicola
Oct 2, 2009 at 6:31 a.m.
Suggest removal

John,

A man shouldn't be measured by the strength of his body but rather from within. You've always shown us that kind of strength, even before this difficult chapter in your life. You've touched many lives including mine. I'm thankful for the opportunity to have worked with you over your entire career here at the Gazette. God's blessing to you and your family. You are truly an inspiration to us all.

prevention
Oct 2, 2009 at 12:28 a.m.
Suggest removal

John,
It is comforting that you are able to "come to terms" with your faith! I have heard too many lose their faith, wondering how God could do this to them or their loved ones. It is a great thing to learn that you are able to find Him in your time of need and pain!! Kudos!

grj1976
Oct 1, 2009 at 11:14 p.m.
Suggest removal

I'm sorry to read this posting John. I've taken great interest in your blogs because not only did I get the chance to meet you long ago when I was in high school competing in track and field, but my Dad has been battling kidney cancer since last year. All your writing, from your sports articles and now your blogs, has touched me and inspired me. They've also helped me cope with and understand my Dad's battle with cancer. For this John I thank you. My prayers are with you in what I hope are many days, weeks, months ahead. You truly are a great person who has touched many.

Marissa
Oct 1, 2009 at 10:50 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, You spoke at the Relay For Life this year at which my daughter is a past honorary chair...then you hit us both up for money as you paraded around in your purple gown. Relay has taught many of us too much...way more than we want to know. I am sorry for the turn of events. I am so happy to know that you have God in your life. I pray for your family and for your peace. God bless you for sharing.

spikesmom
Oct 1, 2009 at 10:36 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, thank you so much for sharing yourself with us. Janesville was lucky and grateful to have had you. You have touched the hearts of everyone that read your story. My father passed away suddenly in May and I never got the chance to tell him what an impact he had on my life. I didn't want to make that mistake again. You, sir, have shown me what bravery looks like. God Bless you and your family in the days, weeks and months ahead.

hasters84
Oct 1, 2009 at 10:21 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, You are such an inspiring and brave person. I, like so many others have read all your blogs.I was one of the lucky ones to know you.I miss those nights seeing you at the Hole and debating are opinions over certain sports topics with a cold one in hand. I've lost a lot of love ones to cancer. Thanks for being so open and sharing your battle with everyone.
May God bless you and your family.
Mike Hastings

BostonBill
Oct 1, 2009 at 9:32 p.m.
Suggest removal

“I’m not afraid of dying, but I’m afraid I’m dying, folks.”
I cannot get that sentence out of my head.

I read this blog earlier today and I was so shocked and saddened that I could not respond. My mind went to that place of disbelief where minds go when all we can think about is No, this cannot be happening. This is not the way it is supposed to be. I’m having a bad dream.
If you are able to read the many thoughtful and caring posts here from such a diverse group of people, I think you will know how many lives you have touched with your honesty. I would guess that the majority of us have never met you but we have great respect for you. Thank you Mr. McPoland for sharing such a personal story. May God Bless.
Oh, by the way, I do expect many more blogs from you.

mombirchx5
Oct 1, 2009 at 9:11 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, I didn't know what I would say to you last Friday before I came to see you with Hannah. The words came easily once we got there and started BS'ing about everything under the sun. I can't believe it has actually come to this. I'm crying at my keyboard wishing there was more time. Thank you for being the person you are. You are an incredibly gifted writer and I will miss your blogs. Some of them had me laughing hysterically with your funny perspectives. I feel as though I have gotten to know you better through your writings! You are the bravest man I know. You have helped me to put things "into perspective", as you said that night. I will miss you. Please say Hi to my mom when you see her. Much love, Mary

moe
Oct 1, 2009 at 8:27 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, you have been there from the beginning with Bare and me and never at this point did I think you wouldn't be. The music nights, the road trips to the W.C. Fair, the arguments about whether to go into administration or not... I will greatly miss, but will always treasure. There has never been anyone so honest, bold and sincere as you have in the 12 1/2 years we have known each other. As I told you a week ago, you are incredibly brave and you make me believe even more than I have before, that heaven is a wonderful place and you will be a perfect fit! Please say hi to my Grandma, grandpas, aunt and uncle.They will be so happy to meet you! I love you with all my heart and I will talk to you endlessly. Nothing will change!!! Lol

TKFC
Oct 1, 2009 at 8:15 p.m.
Suggest removal

Been reading your blogs here in NC. Bless you John and thank you for sharing. Thank you for all you've given to the community, your fans and your readers near and far. Give JP a big hug.

jleute
Oct 1, 2009 at 7:52 p.m.
Suggest removal

John...In the 17 years I've worked with you, you've never stopped amazing me ... in many, many ways. In dealing with your illness, however, you've outdone yourself. Thank you!

dvonfalkenstein
Oct 1, 2009 at 7:47 p.m.
Suggest removal

You will forever be remembered. You will forever be missed. You will always be looked up to. You will never be duplicated.

Whether we talked racing, music, television, movies or life in general, I always came away with something.

A great colleague, a great friend.

Bravery. Courage. Indefinable optimism.

You the man.

davrille
Oct 1, 2009 at 7:30 p.m.
Suggest removal

John - although I knew before coming to your post this evening, I must reiterate how much you've given of yourself to those who've both been here in your posts, and in your life.
I live vicariously sometimes through my wife's eyes and experiences, and you'll soon come to realize why I am especially thankful for "the battlers".
You have inspired and educated, and only a few in a crowd realize how important it is to see these struggles and re-align their priorities in life.
So Thank You John, for your words and your story - they give everyone inspiration - EVERYONE.
And God Bless from myself, and my aforementioned wife Trish (yes, that Trish)

ray53511
Oct 1, 2009 at 7:27 p.m.
Suggest removal

God Bless you John and the rest of the McPolland Family and thanks for the memories .

jbarry
Oct 1, 2009 at 7:24 p.m.
Suggest removal

McP
I don't know where to start.
You've fought this unfair battle with the strength of a 1,000 men.
Jimmy V said "Cancer can take away all of my physical abilities. It cannot touch my mind, it cannot touch my heart, and it cannot touch my soul."
You proved that.
I'll never forget all the late nights that the Gazette Sports boys sat up listening to bad 70s music at my house and talked about solving all the world's problems.
Travel well my friend, travel well.

NVgrf
Oct 1, 2009 at 7:17 p.m.
Suggest removal

If there are sports in heaven, I know who will be right up front with pen and notebook in hand. God bless you, John.

Matt__Gaboda
Oct 1, 2009 at 7:04 p.m.
Suggest removal

Thank you for your humbling perspective. You have positively impacted more lives than you can imagine. Your strength has become our strength. I commend you for your fight, and your eternal inspiration. Peace.

SarahB1
Oct 1, 2009 at 6:58 p.m.
Suggest removal

I'm sorry, John, but I am one of your readers who is very prone to have tears. Right now, they are dripping onto my keyboard as I write this. (I will blame you if I get electrocuted ...). You nudged your way into my thoughts and, then, my heart with your blog entries. I knew there was absolutely no way to fight it once you posted photographs of your Tally. I envision "man's best friend" lying next to you in that bed. Please give her a squeeze from me, a reader who only met the two of you through your eyes and words. Be safe in this most important journey, John. Your destination tops everyone's wish list. As I have told several who have gone before you, "Please save me a seat at the big table." God bless you and your family, John.

copperguy
Oct 1, 2009 at 6:56 p.m.
Suggest removal

John: I lost a dear friend on August 20. She, like you, was absolutely amazing in dealing with her cancer with grace, dignity, and faith. There was a song recorded many years ago, called, "I have a dream." I'm pasting a link to it for you, John. I hope you are able to read those lyrics, for I know that they speak your thoughts as they did hers.

God be with you in your journey, John!

http://www.lyricsfreak.com/a/abba/i+have...

digitalodonata
Oct 1, 2009 at 6:32 p.m.
Suggest removal

godspeed. thank you for opening your life to us and show us what real courage is. you are a true angel on earth.

freeradical
Oct 1, 2009 at 5:57 p.m.
Suggest removal

Your words are sincere, and filled with a sense of fulfillment and acceptence. I hope that if I find myself in a situation such as yours, that I can find the clarity and strength you have shown.
Although I'm usually a long winded talker, I don't have much else to say.
And even though I don't consider myself religious, perhaps someday I will be. So with that said;
God bless you John.Thanks for taking us with as far as we could follow you. You are so loved!

rockpile
Oct 1, 2009 at 5:18 p.m.
Suggest removal

Thank you for all the help and information you have given to all of us. Your courage and strength is a model for all to admire. THANK YOU--THANK YOU!!!!

mim
Oct 1, 2009 at 5:18 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, As a former Gazette co-worker and cancer survivor, I applaud you for sharing your blog, and your testimony of your faith in God. Dealing with cancer definitely gives you an appreciation for your own value system and an opportunity to put effort into the things that matter most. I know your updates have inspired and affected those who have read your writings. May you be richly blessed and may God be glorified as you continue your journey and meet your maker. Miriam (Randall) Shook

klinkhas
Oct 1, 2009 at 5:12 p.m.
Suggest removal

On behalf of our family I want to extend our profound THANKS to all of my brother Johns "Janesville" family! I especially want to send a shout out to all of Bliss Communication for their support through the duration of this illness... John could not have asked for a better company to work for. The staff that has been Johns friends have done more than words can describe... I was with my brother when he was diagnosed, and joined my parents in the journey to bring him home, and all I can say is how proud I am to be his sister, he is certainly my hero! The family and friends who have come to visit, called, or sent cards have been like small gifts from heaven. As our family and friends surround my brother in these final days I ask all who read this to say a prayer for peace for John as he continues his brave fight. So finally THANKS to all who have cared for John, played poker with him, or worked with him... soon you will have a new gaurdian angel watching over you!
Johns sister
Shelly

lachanceg
Oct 1, 2009 at 5 p.m.
Suggest removal

John
What a profound update. You've touched me deep within my soul. I only hope I can approach my last days on earth with such dignity and insight. God bless you and your family. I wish you great peace on the next leg of your journey...

brewcitygirl
Oct 1, 2009 at 4:32 p.m.
Suggest removal

John,I've been reading your updates online and asking my dad if he still see's you at lunch with the guys, wondering how things are going. We all got our answer today.
God Bless you. My thoughts and prayers go out to you and your family.
Your friend in Milwaukee.

PVANGALDER
Oct 1, 2009 at 4:25 p.m.
Suggest removal

I am so incredibly sad right now! I think I know what you and your family are going thru right now. My husband was given a few weeks to live back in January due to Liver Cancer -he succumbed to the illness on July 4th 2009-just three months ago. He also was not afraid of dying-he had no regrets in his life. Only that he had the disease and that we could not spend many years together. We tried to prepare but you just can't! My pain is unbearable. You sound like a very strong person. God Bless

TheJoker
Oct 1, 2009 at 4:24 p.m.
Suggest removal

Thank you for the inspiration John! May God continue to bless you!

Gandalf
Oct 1, 2009 at 4:07 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, you are a hero in our community, and your humor, writing talent, and overall professionalism will never be forgotten. Your legacy will only continue to grow. You don't know me, but I've sure come to proudly know you. God Bless!

bschmittinger
Oct 1, 2009 at 3:56 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, It has been an honor! I am so very glad I was able to get to know you. Thank you and I will never forget you!:~D

tjncj
Oct 1, 2009 at 3:50 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, I will miss your writing and the candidness you shared on this blog. Gob Bless you on your continuing journey.

gpeck
Oct 1, 2009 at 3:48 p.m.
Suggest removal

John: Never fear that you might someday be forgotten. You never COULD be forgotten.
Peace be with you and all your loved ones.
Greg Peck

janesvillean
Oct 1, 2009 at 3:20 p.m.
Suggest removal

My compassion goes out to your and your family. We know a little of hardship ourselves and know you need it.

Duckcarver
Oct 1, 2009 at 3:07 p.m.
Suggest removal

You are a great man, john McPoland. It was a blessing to get to know you a little through your blog. God bless you.

wannabe30
Oct 1, 2009 at 2:30 p.m.
Suggest removal

I thank you from the bottom of my heart for telling your story, have faith in your new journey. God Bless you

MeMyself_I
Oct 1, 2009 at 1:54 p.m.
Suggest removal

I will simply say that if your family believes in God the way that you do, they will be sad to lose you, but joyful knowing that you are celebrating a new body in heaven. May God lay his hands upon you and give you peace.

chainsawchuckie
Oct 1, 2009 at 1:53 p.m.
Suggest removal

From one from Dubuque to another I will get over there soon and go to Eagle Point Park and take a few moments to reflect on the things you have said in your posts as it is a special place for me. Thank You for sharing and GOD BLESS {{{{{{{HUGS}}}}}}}

brainstorm
Oct 1, 2009 at 1:46 p.m.
Suggest removal

John,
Many thoughts are with you as you face this part of your journey. Thank you for sharing your experiences and illness so eloquently. Continue to feel the love and strength from your family and so many of your friends. May God continue to bless you and your family.

jimlyke
Oct 1, 2009 at 1:45 p.m.
Suggest removal

John - I have been reading your blog with interest since day one. Both my father and my father-in-law were taken down by cancer - in my father's case, it was also esophageal, like yours. You have made it 19 months longer than he did, a testament both to the medical advances of the last 24 years as well as your personal strength and determination.
I just want to thank you for sharing your experiences. Your blog has meant a lot of those who have been through this with a family member. All of your readers have been pulling for you. When your column suddenly reappeared in the Gazette along with this blog, it was terrific to see, a glimmer of hope for all of us. And even though things have gotten to the point they are now, the courage and strength you displayed has not been lost on anyone; it's a model for the rest of us.
God bless, John.

localmatters
Oct 1, 2009 at 1:34 p.m.
Suggest removal

John,

My image of you will always be on the front page singing the Wisconsin fight song after UW beat your beloved Cyclones in the '90's. Your columns are frank, honest and fair. After reading this blog post, I really hope you're wrong. I've never met you. I respect you. The readers respect you.

yada
Oct 1, 2009 at 1:06 p.m.
Suggest removal

John 3:16 "For God so loved the world that he gave his one and only son, that whoever believes in him shall not perish but have eternal life." My favorite bible quotation and thank you John for sharing with us.

curtaincall
Oct 1, 2009 at 1:03 p.m.
Suggest removal

My thoughts are with you John. You have shown us all incredible strength and courage and faith. I want to thank you for sharing what you have with us. My prays and thoughts will be with you.

tskram
Oct 1, 2009 at 12:34 p.m.
Suggest removal

My thoughts are with you, John! I'm fighting back watery eyes as I type. It takes courage to be as forth-coming as you are with your cancer journey. You inspire me to be a better person. You've become a beacon of hope, courage and strength for others with cancer. Your charisma, enthusiasm and optimism has touched me in a way you'll never know. Most importantly, you inspire the community to be a better place. Our thoughts are with you and your family.

bennetonf1
Oct 1, 2009 at 12:33 p.m.
Suggest removal

God speed John McPoland...

LOVEISGOOD
Oct 1, 2009 at 12:30 p.m.
Suggest removal

I don't know what to say ! I have also been waiting for an update and hoping it would be all good news . You don't know me and I don't know you John , but my heart sure does go out to you and everyother person fightng this horrible disease ! You have left us all with the realization that we really need to be thankful for what we have and maybe more importantly , who we have ! .... Thank you for sharing John ... P.s. If you meet gramma T in the future . Tell her I love and miss her please ! Safe journeys John !

Mariekos
Oct 1, 2009 at 12:22 p.m.
Suggest removal

John, you are an incredibly brave person. I have been waiting for an update from you and this has brought me to tears. You are in my prayers.

Peace to you.

krsmith01
Oct 1, 2009 at 12:05 p.m.
Suggest removal

God Bless you John!

badgerboy
Oct 1, 2009 at 12:02 p.m.
Suggest removal

God bless you John!

pack
Oct 1, 2009 at 11:50 a.m.
Suggest removal

{{{John}}} I don't even know you, but through your words, I feel like I have always known you. Thank you for sharing with us. And give Tally a big hug for me every day you can. My thoughts will be with you and your family.

ggx3
Oct 1, 2009 at 11:42 a.m.
Suggest removal

John, thank you for having the courage to share your journey with us. You are in our thoughts and prayers as you complete the rest of your journey. God bless.

Before you post a comment, consider this:

Note: GazetteXtra.com does not condone or review every comment. Read more in our User Policy Agreement
  • Keep it clean. Comments that are obscene, vulgar or sexually oriented will be removed. Creative spelling of such terms or implied use of such language is banned, also.
  • Don't threaten to hurt or kill anyone.
  • Be nice. No racism, sexism or any other sort of -ism that degrades another person.
  • Harassing comments. If you are the subject of a harassing comment or personal attack by another user, do not respond in-kind.  Hit the "Suggest Removal" button on offensive comments.
  • Share what you know. Give us your eyewitness accounts, background, observations and history.
  • Do not libel anyone. Libel is writing something false about someone that damages that person's reputation.
  • Ask questions. What more do you want to know about the story?
  • Stay focused. Keep on the story's topic.
  • Help us get it right. If you spot a factual error or misspelling, email newsroom@gazettextra.com or call 1-800-362-6712.
  • Remember, this is our site. We set the rules, and we reserve the right to remove any comments that we deem inappropriate.

Post Comment

Commenting requires registration.

Username:
Password: (Forgotten your password?)

Comment:

ADVERTISEMENT