Sorry it took so long, I didnt know this blog story was on here or I would have been posting earlier. Both I (Sandy's neice) and Wags Sandys ex husband and the father to her children have asked people kindly to stop attacking dustins family. They are not saying he didnt do it. I have not heard anything about them proving anything in court, they were just giving the evidence. Katie (Sandy's Daughter) called the prosecuter and there is no plea nor verdict. My prayers go out to Dustins family. An update on Sandy. She remembers friends and family... she is walking with braces and support, she is now talking. She has some strength but after dinner time she becomes very tired. The doctors have a positive outlook and are very hopeful for a very good recovery. Thank you everyone so much for your prayers! I truly believe that God has heard and stepped in to help, I hope that he does the same in helping Dustins family to heal.

IMO-Its nice to think it is morally possible to help a family member, but not neccessarily always possible. It starts with having the money and the means to make it work. Some people are not financially able to make anything happen or have the necessary means to help it happen.

In no way am I condoning this mans actions. Yes he should pay dearly for twhat he did. And yes I would say attempted murder, or should I say manslaughter since maybe his intent was not to kill her.OT- I am a victim of domestic violence and my ex tried to kill me and told me he was going to kill me.He got off with a DISORDERLY CONDUCT!!!! The system does suck BIG TIME!!!

yes I tried. But who said that this mans family members didn't try? I dont recall anyone saying that. My daughter has been on electronic monitoring, juvenile probation, been grounded, Ive yelled at her, Ive tried to talk to her, community service, group home, secured detention,scared straight program, volunteering around our community, things she cant "live without" taken from her, I've hauled her to work with me to keep an "eye" on her, drivers lisence suspended,drug/alcohol programs, psych hospital, medications, counseling,challenge academy school, fines and most recently hauled to jail. She still doesnt "get it". I can't blame myself and won't. She has to live with her bad decisions. I try to support her as much as I can, but I dont and I wont condone her behavior, but there is nothing else I can do.

bullysarebest---Im assuming you dont have children and if you do they must be perfect angels. And no one in your family has ever been in trouble???? Its nice to think it is morally possible to help a family member, but not neccessarily always possible.

She's 18--so on her 18th bday she just turned 'bad'?

But, you tried right?

I still dont agree. Like I said, if they don't want to help themselves do you honestly think he wuld let someone else help him? He is an adult and noone can make him do anything he doesnt want to. if he goes to detox, he has to go willingly, you cant make him. Jail and the neccessary programs to help rehablitate him is the only option. And once in the system his odds are not good. so if this man was in ur family what could you do to help him? I have a daughter who is 18 and I have tried and tried to help her stay out of trouble. But because she is 18 I cant make her do anything she doesnt want to.

BTW, if I had someone in my family and I knew they were a ticking time bomb. I knew they were getting in trouble with the law on a regular basis and I knew they had a troubled background and I did NOTHING to help them or intervene. Then yes, I would hold myself responsible if they did something. Legally am I responsible? No, but morally I am.

I don't know if you're completely getting my point. In the END, the only one accoutable for his actions IS him. BUT, there are those in life that contribute to his actions, his behaviors etc. NONE of us live in a bubble all by ourselves. YES, we ARE responible for those in our family. EVERY interaction with have with them ties us to them. IF I know someone is dangerous and I do NOTHING to stop it, then yes I am responsible for not having tried to do anything to stop them. Does that mean that I am responsible that he beat a woman? No, it means I am responsible for the fact that I did nothing to stop him. There are adults out there who will NEVER take responsiblity for their action, they will commit horrific crimes--I know because I've worked with kids who do it and grow up to be adults. If they aren't going to stop themselves, then it's up to those around them to do so. To know what someone is capable of and not doing anything is not right.

Im sorry I dont agree with you. No one HAS to take responsibility for anothers actions EXCEPT the person themself. He has done this himself and like I said if he doesnt take the help he is offered, no one can succeed in helping him. so I dont understand how you can hold someone else accountable for HIS actions. I surely wouldnt want my family accounable for something i did wrong , and why should they take the blame? He is a grown man and should be the one accountable for his own actions. So if this man was in your family would u be there to support him? Im sure you would but at the same time your not condoning his behavior. Family is supposed to be there for you no matter what. Is this someones husband? Should his wife be accountable? WhAT if he was a cheating husband? Should his family be accountable? I think not.
What if he was a preachers son? Would you hold the preacher responsible for his sons actions?
Being an adult means taking responsibility of your own life and knowing whats right and wrong. If he doesnt, he is beyond being helped by family.

ebaijunky06--No one likes to think they have to responsible for someone else. It scares the heck out of people to think that yes they may well could have stopped something awful from happening. But, sorry, that's how it is. I've worked with enough people like this in my life to know. The family is involved whether they want to be or not. Unfortunately, that's how life is. If this man turned out to be a famous inventor and saved lives, you can bet his family would be beaming and exclaiming how they all helped him be the person he is. It works the other way too. Not just when the good stuff happens, but when the bad stuff does too.

dosnmatter - first to be taken seriously, you have to learn how to spell simple words. Second, you can't be serious. Your relative is a dirtball, period. Your defense of him is the reason he probably lived like he did. Nobody in your family ever corrected him, or held him accountable for his actions. Now, we get to hold him accountable for his actions, and you will probably be mad at the world for it. Time for justice!

I cannot believe some of these posts....BLAME BLAME BLAME!!!
No 1-how do any of u know if someone in the family tried to help him?
no 2-u cant help someone who dont want to be helped.
no 3-You cannot blame anyone for dudes actions, he has chose this way of life.
no 4-if he was in ur family, Im sure this would be hard to accept for you.
no 5-if this was ur nephew im sure you would try to defend him

So why dont u all stop all the blaming, family bashing comments...it is sickening reading some of these posts.

No he is not a family member and I do not know him. Nor do I condone his behavior. But putting down the family is real ignorant.

haha you guys all make me laugh like there is nothing else in your life that you can do rather then make comment after comment on this stupid webpage... you guys are silly.

Referring to attempted homicide NOT attempted felony murder.

Correction...does in fact require intent...not just in some cases.

Grrrrrr--I meant ultimately at the beginning of my last comment!

janesvillean...jfam06...andlocalboy since1968...seem to be getting the statutes and terminology confused and intermixed.

jfmof06 speaks of "attempted murder"; there is no such thing in Wisconsin statutes. There is however,FELONY MURDER, which is "causing the death of another human being while committing or attempting to commit a crime under specific statutes. "Attempted" felony murder does not exist. There is however "ATTEMPTED HOMICIDE" which does in some cases require intent.

janesvillean refers to "intent" being an element of murder...however this is not correct. The elements of felony murder do not require "intent." "Homicide", however, is a different statute...of varying degrees, and encompasses different elements, some of which require intent, and some of which do not.

localboy is mistaken in assuming that the end result signifies intent.

(BTW--my line of thinking comes from working with abused/neglected children for many many years. These children were the 'worst of the worst' when it came to behavior issues. These were kids that didn't take responsibility for their actions, some had no clue how to. So, it was our job to try and teach them to take that responsibility. In the mean time, it was also our job to make sure they didn't hurt themselves or others. I understand these were children so the 'control' we had over them legally was so much easier. But, these kids grow up to be adults and if they haven't been reformed in their way of thinking then you have big people running around doing horrific things.)

ljs64>> Ultimely, yes there is only one person to blame. There are those who played their part in the over all scheme of things though. If someone isn't going to restrain themselves from doing death and destruction then it's our job to do it for them--whether we like it or not. If someone close to you or me is on a path to doing harm to someone and their actions make you aware of that then yes, you or I need to do something to stop it. There are those who will never take responsibility for their actions not matter how much we want or will them to. In those cases, then the family/friends need to do something.

Here we go blaming others for the actions of one. This is what our society has turned to. Blaming others because it is easier that way.
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One person and ONLY one is to blame in this tragedy.

Bully, I am 100% in agreement with your previous comment.

MooShoo--anyone who knew him and knew what he was capable of are to blame. We don't like to think that we are responsible for those around us, but we are. That doesn't take the initial responsibility off of the person themselves--they first and foremost are resposible for their own actions. But, if we all took the time to take the extra steps of helping those we know who are out of control, have a history, have a troubled background etc maybe we'd have less of these incidents. It seems in our society that these kind of crimes have risen because it isn't PC anymore to step in and take ahold of those around us who show a tendency to commit crimes of any kind!!

All I am saying is Dustin was a train wreck waiting to happen. I base that comment on what I read and his CCAP record over the last three years.
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If someone, either friend or family would have turned him around, the May 10 assault might not have occured.
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If you cannot understand that concept, you are dense. If you disagree with it, you lack character.

I see MooShoo's point on the intervention just because the family is on here posting in his defense. They can't complain and blame us for saying things against him when they obviously took no steps to intervene with this man and his criminal behavior. The more I read about him, his history and the present crime the more I feel like getting sick to my stomach.

to the family members of this man.you need to stop making excuses for your family member,if he did this and theyre sure he did, he needs to be punished as badly as that poor woman was beat.if you were so concerned about his welfare,and how he was treated when he was younger,them maybe you should have intervened before now.this young man should sit at least 10 years in prison, and the truth in sentencing law should apply to this case.and for those of you that are his family that dont want to read all this stuff about him,dont beat yourself up and read these posts,because people are outraged over what this young man did.also,to his family members if this happened to you or one of your own you would be saying the same things people are saying about him.dont worry prisons are nice these days he will be quite comfortable. LOL

WE don't put YOU in prison to help YOU get your life back together. WE PUT YOU THERE to PUNISH YOU. Now go to you know where if you still think WE CARE about your life "issues". You only get ONE second chance, and then it should be back to eating bologhny.

"If he was my brother, son, cousin or uncle, I would have been doing some serious intervention before May 10, 2009"..... So now it's Sperb's family to blame? Give me a break. Sometimes, somehow, people have to start taking responsibility for their own actions. When we put people in prison for serious crimes, it should be on the basis of punishment. Enough of this "they need special treatment so let's lock them up and let them go to group three times a day" nonsense. Enough coddling violent offenders, thinking some shrink or group session will change them. Enough already. Lock them up as punishment. PUNISHMENT. We ain't running no country clubs for cons here folks. Or are we?

Since anyone can say anything (within the guidelines) that they choose, I think if I had an emotional stake in this (friend or family) I would just choose not to read this! JMHO.

MooShoo: first of all why are you so concerned about a person you do not know???? just wondering

doesntmatter, anyone with 10 court convictions in three years has a problem. If you read the JG story this morning, he got drunk, picked a fight, dragged a child through the fire, staggered around, was hitting on women, and had a 43 second angry phone conversation with Cole's daugher. That occured before his alledged crime spree. Sounds like a guy under control to me, what do you think?
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If he was my brother, son, cousin or uncle, I would have been doing some serious intervention before May 10, 2009.

all the people on here making mean comments: did your mothers ever teach you if you dont have anything nice to say then dont say anything at all. both families are having a hard time dealing with all of this and they dont need comments from the peanut gallery. they know the situation and they are dealing with it the best they can. both families are in shock of all of this and they dont need people telling them how bad it is. THEY KNOW!!!

for everyones information he never did drungs and he barely ever drank!! its not that we cant addmite that he did it, uh duh he did it they proved it in court! But you guys dont know the life that he lived and why one day he finaly exploded like a ticking bomb. Im not sayin what he did was okay. no one in our family would ever think of dustin doing anything like this. all of you need to get a life and get off the rude comments to our family!!!!!

I am not condoning what Sperb may have done, but it looks like the guy was time bomb waiting to go off. Control the alcohol or anger and it may have never happened. Thats my point Wesgonsin.

HIS assistance? What about HERS? Awe.... So a problem with drugs and booze is supposed to make ua all feel sorry for the attackers? It's just that kind of thinking that lets violent offenders back out on the street. Anger issues.... Crawl out from beneath the rock you've been living under. Jesus....

My hope is that Ms.Cole recover's completely from her injuries.
My best to her & her family.

I cannot understand why the family of Sperb did not come to his assistance sooner. One look at his CCAP records tell you has a problem with anger and alcohol.

The way it is looking now is pretty clear that he is guilty , I guess it would be hard for me to admit if one of my family members did somthing this awful , but the be honest if they did then they need responisable for there actions and pay for there crime .This women had a family also how do you think they feel ?

Im not saying it wouldnt be hard on me to watch one of my family members to be ran threw the system , but he had a choice and he needs to pay there is no excuse for this

The $40K bail for Sperb might as well be $40 million. I think you can count on his mailing address being the Rock County Jail until a verdict is reached.

I'm starting to think they send people to jail under the "supply and demand" train of thought.... That is to say "demand them and they will supply them" no matter how minor the offence and all the while the worst of offenders tromp right the Hell out of that jail on cheap or no bond.

Where do we send monetary donations for her care? Let's get something set up for her.

$40,000 bond? Try $4,000,000 instead. He had her blood on his shirt, for Christ's sake. That seems like a pretty solid case,in my opinion. Or are they to afraid to prosecute the one case that might propell them to local stardom? And win them a seat on the Judicial commitee....
If they can't keep the accused out of jail, well then Justice truly IS blind in Rock County.

Her blood was on his clothing, his DNA was on her. Maybe it's time to admit that he did it. I'm sure he's lying and denying, but the truth is there. He should and will be convicted. Trying to protect this person is just stupid.

janesvillean, If somebody had to be put on life support after a beating, then intent to kill should be pretty easy. If he truely was to battery her, he would have not beat her to inches of her life....

Uh, Shelby, your comment "u people like to hurt other people" is quit ironic. Isn't that what your beloved nephew is accused of doing? And with all the evidence to prove it. MAY HE ROT IN HELL (if he did this and was not framed by the CIA or something like that). And IF he was drunk at the time; that is NOT a defense.

nic nac is still here along with me and the rest of his family.. u people like to hurt other people and really must have no life at all. I understand the people that want to put there input on here but please rememeber that this young man has a family out here that have to deal with this! Im his aunt and its hard enough dealing with the papers and the talk around town then we have to deal with ignorant people posting hurtfull stuff.

jfam06, the charge of murder requires proving intent to kill. It has nothing to do with how dramatic the injuries are.

Too drunk to know? Sounds like he's been watching too much CSI and Law & Order! Lame excuse!!

If this guy is truly the man who commited the crime, I hope they have a ton o' fun with him in prison!

He should be charged with ATTEMPTED MURDER!!

Sad. I feel so badly for this woman and her family. I hope she is able to recover. I also hope this guy goes to trial quickly and lawyers don't drag the whole thing out.

that is just sickening. that poor poor lady, i hope sperb rots!!!